i thought of this analogy lately and i think it’s really apt :)
so bgr are like drugs.
we all, as kids/ teenagers know that drugs are bad for health and that we’re supposed to abstain from it. we all know that we’re not supposed to go near it or even just try a little of it. but despite knowing all of these, some people still turn to drugs. and why? because drugs can temporarily numb the excruciating pain that you’re experiencing inside, it makes you feel happy and high, and everyone loves this feeling. i mean, hello!? who wouldn’t want a “perfect” life right? and when it comes to the time when you’re trying to break away from this addiction, you find it damn hard and it hurts so badly you just want to go back to your drugs, to the place where you’re happy and free from the problems of the world.
so similarly, getting into a bgr when you’re not ready is like taking drugs. yeah we do know that we’re not supposed to get into one at this age. but we still do. and why? cause it feels good to be loved and to love. it feels good to be in a relationship, to tell your girl friends about *him* and to be around and with him. and times when you’re together, it seemed as if the world was perfect and there is nothing more you can ask for. you go to him when you’re sad angry confused… whatever and he can make you happy all over again just by holding your hand or hugging you. but when you guys fall out and when you’re trying to end the relationship, it hurts like hell. you tell yourself that you’re gonna be strong and just let go of him because he does not deserve to be held on to anymore. you tell yourself that if he could actually turn his back on you, walk away and never look back, then you should too. but every time you try to take a step back from this relationship, you get reminded of all the sweet things that you two did together and it stings your heart like hell. and you want to go back to him, you want to get back into that relationship. but no… you know you cant and you wont.
and you know you never will because that “drug” that you took, ruined your life and it’ll take a long time before your life is back together again.